As a dog trainer, I’m often asked about my training philosophy—especially when it comes to socialization. Socialization is crucial for any dog’s confidence and well-being, but there’s an art to it, and that art lies in finding a middle path. I’ve learned that while social play is beneficial, it’s just as important to teach dogs structure and focus, so they can enjoy play while also listening to their handlers in any setting.

This philosophy became clear to me through my own journey with Greta, my Rottweiler. Rottweilers can often face stigmas, so I wanted Greta to be the best ambassador for her breed. I started Greta’s socialization young, enrolling her in three different puppy classes, doggy daycare, and playgroups. I thought, “The more, the better!” But, as I soon learned, that strategy can sometimes backfire. Here’s how Greta’s experience taught me the importance of a well-rounded approach to socialization.

Socialization: More Isn’t Always Better

My goal was for Greta to be comfortable around other dogs and to show the world how friendly and well-behaved a Rottweiler could be. While that intention was good, in hindsight, I can see that I may have *overdone it* with all those play sessions and group activities. With all that exposure, Greta quickly learned to love meeting other dogs, but this love turned into overstimulation. When she saw other dogs, she would get so excited that she found it impossible to stay calm on leash or focus on me. Instead of walking by calmly, she’d pull, bark, and strain to reach every dog she saw. Ironically, this eagerness made her seem more “reactive” than I ever intended.

Looking back, I realize that I had created a scenario I was hoping to avoid. Greta still liked other dogs, but she was so stimulated by their presence that she struggled to stay focused on me during walks and in public. Over-socializing without structure had created a new challenge: Greta saw every other dog as a potential playmate, which made outings stressful for both of us.

The Importance of Structured Socialization

What I learned from Greta was that there’s a difference between *quality* socialization and just “more” socialization. At Sit n Stay, we believe in an approach that includes structured social experiences to help dogs learn how to stay engaged with their handlers even when other dogs are nearby. It’s possible—and important—to help dogs enjoy social play without expecting to play with *every* dog they meet.

In our Dog School, we emphasize controlled group interactions, where dogs get the chance to play and engage with each other in a way that’s fun but also structured. This helps them learn key skills like focusing on their owners, listening even with other dogs around, and understanding that sometimes, they’ll meet new dogs without necessarily interacting with them. Our approach allows dogs to enjoy the best of both worlds—positive social experiences and a strong connection with their owners.

Why a Structured Approach Works Best

While socialization helps build confidence and comfort, it’s important to balance that social experience with training that promotes self-control and focus. This way, our dogs learn:

- To have positive play experiences while also understanding boundaries.

Structured social play helps dogs feel comfortable in various settings without becoming overstimulated or frustrated when they can’t meet every dog they see.

- To focus on their handler, no matter the environment.

Training dogs to focus even around distractions (like other dogs) helps prevent behaviors like leash pulling or reactivity. By teaching them that they don’t get to play with every dog they see, we’re helping them learn patience, restraint, and trust in their handler.

- To enjoy other dogs while staying well-mannered and in control.

Our goal is to help dogs be social and friendly in a way that strengthens their bond with their owners, not one that leads to frustration or overstimulation.

Walking the Middle Path: Socialization with Intention

In dog training, finding the middle path means offering our dogs the right blend of freedom and structure. We want them to enjoy the company of other dogs without feeling entitled to interact with each dog they see. This path allows for socialization that is both enriching and respectful, creating well-rounded dogs who are happy to greet new friends but just as happy to stay focused when necessary.

With Greta’s experience as a guide, I now focus on helping others achieve that balance. Through Sit n Stay Dog Training and our Dog School, we encourage owners to allow their dogs to enjoy healthy, positive play but also learn to look to their handlers for cues and support. We’ve seen this approach lead to happier, more secure dogs who are just as comfortable on a crowded street as they are at playtime.

Bringing It All Together

Structured socialization allows our dogs to experience the best of both worlds: the joy of social play and the strength of a calm, trusting bond with their owner. If you’re looking to strike the perfect balance with your dog, our Dog School Program may be just what you need. This November, we’re offering a 10% discount on our 12-week program—a great opportunity to start creating that well-rounded experience for your dog.

To learn more about finding that perfect blend of play and focus, feel free to reach out or check out our Dog School program. Together, we can help your dog thrive in a way that’s enjoyable, respectful, and just the right fit for their unique personality.